Shared Responsibilities With My Spouse

As I was cleaning up after dinner the other night, I started thinking about chores or responsibilities my husband and I naturally alternate. I personally appreciate our routines and systems because it allows us both to get “breaks”, which is always nice. I know every family dynamic is so different, however I thought I would share a few ideas and things that work for us! I would love to know anything that works for you!

1.Bath Time

If you have children, you know bed time routines can take a good chunk out of your night. We started alternating bath time once our youngest son could join our oldest. We alternate each night with bathing, pajamas, snack, etc. It is so nice to have some down time on the off nights and just a minute to relax or get other things done.

2.Weekend Mornings

Once I am done breastfeeding, my husband and I will go back to our weekend morning routine. We like to alternate Saturday and Sunday mornings with getting up with the kids while the other person sleeps in/ relaxes. It is so nice to have a slow morning and I am so looking forward to doing that again!

3.Dinner & Dishes

My husband and I both enjoy cooking, so we typically alternate meals throughout the week. We like to share dinner responsibility by cleaning up the kitchen and doing the dishes if it wasn’t our night to cook!

4.Inside/Outside Chores

My husband and I have gotten into our groove of outside and inside chores. I prefer to take care of the inside, while I leave the outside to him. Of course, if either of us need help we are willing to do what we can! You can check out more on inside chores here: Cleaning Schedule

As always, sending light and love.

Blessings,

Jac

Flying & Pumping

I have shared in previous posts that I chose to exclusively breastfeed both of our boys. You can read more on that here: Breastfeeding & Pumping With Baby 2. I have also shared some tips on pumping when traveling away from your baby (Pumping & Traveling) that helped make things easier for me and my husband. We personally only use bottles when I am away because that is what works best for our family. Even though I have said it multiple times, every person and family has to do what works best for them and their situation.

I recently had another girls weekend and flew for the first time while breastfeeding/pumping. I thought I would share what worked best for me and some insight. I will admit I was nervous about bringing milk back and the overall logistics, however it was so easy! The only downside in my opinion is just the space it takes up.

I would love to know any of your tips!

1. Keep Items With You

I personally only used a carry on and personal item for this trip so I had everything I needed on hand. However, I do suggest having your pump and parts/materials needed for a session with you in case you need to pump at the airport or something happens to your checked bag. I did put extra parts, bags, etc in my suitcase to save space in my backpack, however had everything I needed on hand.

I kept my pump, gallon zip lock bag of parts for a session, and lunch box with 2 ice packs in my back pack which fit perfectly! You can find the lunch box I used here.

2. Plan Ahead

If you nurse or pump, you know there are always a lot of logistics when leaving your baby. I try to minimize what I am taking because it already takes up so much space. If I am able to, I ask to use the dishwasher for my parts prior to the trip to make cleaning easier. If that is not an option, you can bring sterilizing bags and a small soap to clean yourself! I also bring bags to immediately freeze my milk so I am not returning with a ton of bottles. All of this is personal preference, however thinking ahead will be beneficial and help with the logistical side.

3. Freeze Milk

If you are able to, freeze your milk so you can easily pack it in your lunchbox on the flight home. I put an ice pack at the bottom of my lunchbox, stacked my frozen bags, and put another ice box on top (I use thin ones). I also sandwiched my fresh milk from that morning in between the frozen to keep as cold as possible.

Before my bag went through security, I let them know I had breast milk. They had me open my lunch box and felt the top bag to see it was frozen. If they are all fresh, they may put a test strip in them (milk is exception to liquid guidelines). Once they looked in my lunch box, I put it back in my backpack to go through the scanner. It was as easy as that!

I kept my lunchbox in my backpack the entire time and had zero issues with leaking, thawing, etc. It honestly was such an easy process, and I am so thankful airlines are very accommodating to Mommas!

As always, sending light and love.

Blessings,

Jac

Motherhood Lessons: Year 4

Each year when our oldest son has his birthday, I like to take some time to reflect on being a mom and what I have learned throughout the year. This year was full of change with adding a new member to the family and our son starting “school” for the first time (2 days a week). We had to figure out our new family dynamic as well as learn to parent through a more challenging season. You can check out previous reflections here: Motherhood Lessons: Year One, Motherhood Lessons: Year Two, Motherhood Lessons: Year Three.

My husband and I have definitely learned a lot this year as we have had to navigate big changes and emotions. We are currently striving to promote independence, talk about feelings/emotions, be respectful of other family members, practice gratitude, and problem solve.

I would love to know any lessons you have learned through your own journey!

1.Evolve with your children. Parenting is a huge learning process!

2.Do what is best for your family- there is no rule book to parenting or a one size fits all.

3.Encourage communication about feelings and what they are needing.

4.Create healthy boundaries and follow through.

5.Talk about the why. Kids are so much more understanding when they understand the reason.

6.Be consistent in expectations.

7.Find things that work for your child. It is great to get advice and perspective from other parents, but at the end of the day each child and situation is different. What works for one, may not work for the other (even in the same family).

8.Be a safe space for your child…especially when there is a lot of change.

9.Go with the flow.

10.Don’t underestimate the power of praise…do it as often as you can!

As always, sending light and love.

Blessings,

Jac