The other day my husband and I were discussing goals and how so many people feel like they quickly fail because they continue to have the “all or nothing” mentality. The older I get, the more I realize how much of a negative impact that mindset can create. It is unrealistic to set goals with the expectation to execute them perfectly. I have mentioned before, that I truly believe the secret to any accomplishment is not the “hustle” but the consistency. You can read more on that here.
I thought I would share three ways to help ditch the all or nothing mentality to produce positive results in whatever area you are wanting to improve on. I would love to know your thoughts!
1.No Magic Date
There is no magic date or time to start implementing change. I don’t know why so many of us convince ourselves we have to start fresh with a new week, month or year. Change doesn’t happen overnight and there is no magic time to start. Implementing small changes that you can create consistency with will help eliminate feeling like you constantly have to “start over”. Any action towards your end goal is a positive step!
I don’t know about you, but I used to place labels on certain categories of my life. I would tell myself specific foods were “good” or “bad”, different workouts were intense or not intense enough to “count”, designated days were “treat” days, etc. I realized when I did this, I was placing power on those things. Once I stopped focusing on labeling things mentally I was able to keep the bigger picture in mind. Life is about balance, and you are still able to reach goals without having to go “all in”.
3.Focus On One Change At A Time
Many times, we try to implement too many changes at once. We quickly get overwhelmed and realize it is too much or unrealistic with our lifestyle. This is one of the easiest ways to set ourselves up to feel like we “failed”. I am a big believer in focusing on one change at a time, allowing that change to become a habit, and then implementing the next change. This is also referred to as habit stacking!
As always, sending light and love.