As we are getting closer to a year with our second son, I have been thinking about routines and rhythms my husband and I have created with our boys, especially in this baby season. We also have many friends who are expecting or currently in the season of navigating parenthood, which encourages me to reflect even more. My husband and I have learned there is no one size fits all when it comes to babies or children. Having another child really opened our eyes to how different babies can be regardless of other factors being the exact same.
I thought I would share a few things I have been reflecting on to hopefully provide some encouragement or insight. I would love to know anything you learned the first year of having a baby!
1.Let Go Of Expectations
I don’t know why but I feel like we place so many unrealistic expectations on our babies because society tells us when they should be hitting a certain milestone or mastering a specific skill. Although I think there are many great resources available and accessible, I don’t think they are the end all be all. Letting go to what your baby “should” be doing is so freeing and allows you to soak in the season you are in.
2.Babies Are Different
Once again, I truly believe there is no one size fits all when it comes to babies. What works great for one family, may not work for yours and that is perfectly normal. Expectation and comparison can easily rob you of joy, especially in the first year. Babies are going to have their own personalities and preferences from the very beginning.
3.Take Advice With A Grain Of Salt
I don’t know why but people love to give their advice and opinions when it comes to babies and can feel strongly on many subjects. I have learned to take suggestions with a grain of salt. I have to remember that no one is living my day to day. No one is around my children like I am. No one is there in the thick of it.
I do think it is great to reach out and get advice to those you look up to or are close with when you are needing some guidance and support. However, many times people like to give it without you asking which is when you have to take it with a grain of salt.
4.People Share The Highlights
I think it is so important to always remember that people are sharing the highlights online, but there are equally just as many hard moments they are not talking about. I personally like to talk about all faucets of parenthood with friends and loved ones because that is real life.
5.Everyone Is Learning
No one enters parenthood knowing what to do. Sure we can take classes, read books, and research all the things. However, once that baby arrives we are all learning as we go. I think it is easy to forget that other people are just as clueless, but trust me they are.
As always, sending light and love.
Blessings,
Jac
The Bridwells 